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2:00 pm - 4:00 pm
Wednesday, June 28, 2023
M. A. Connell Funeral Home Inc.
934 New York Avenue
Huntington Station, New York, United States
Wednesday
28
June
Visitation
7:00 pm - 9:00 pm
Wednesday, June 28, 2023
M. A. Connell Funeral Home Inc.
934 New York Avenue
Huntington Station, New York, United States
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Russell Abate posted a condolence
Friday, July 14, 2023
Dad,
I have so many amazing memories with you - playing in the pool, going to Maine, watching movies and playing video games. No words can describe how I feel other than I will miss you forever and always think of you. I love you forever.
Love,
Russell
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Hlen Birdsong-Abate uploaded photo(s)
Wednesday, July 5, 2023
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Dear Frank- We were in LOVE since we met- our Love is I LOVE YOU MORE !!
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Chris Abate posted a condolence
Wednesday, July 5, 2023
My father was the best.
Most people will say that about their father but he was not only my Dad, he was also my best friend.
My Dad was someone that everyone knew for his unique personality.
When I was little many conversations started with “Ohhhh.. You’re Frank Abate’s little boy.. I’ve got some stories for you..”
Many of the stories were way over my head at the time but I enjoyed listening to people speak about my father with such passion, amusement and happiness; everyone’s eyes lit up when speaking about him.
Everyoneeeee had a story about my father from when they were growing up.
Some of the stories my uncles would tell me about the Abate boys still stick with me to this day.
Nobody messed with the Abate boys!
The four brothers were very close and loved each other to the core.
You could see in the way they raised their families that LOVE was the main ingredient.
As I got older I started to realize that many of my friends were attracted to my Dad.
My Dad provided a safe place for many of my friends who were too scared to talk to their parents and would ask my Dad for advice first.
My father always had my back, figuratively and literally.
There was nothing like a professional back rub from my dad after a long week of work, many of the times the massage was so good I would pass out.
He was my personal chauffeur and masseuse, a grill master, Jinsu Ninsu watermelon chopper, VHS king, my soccer coach and most importantly my hero.
Not one day goes by where I don’t practice something that my Dad taught me, from tying my shoes, to holding the door open for others.
But the most important thing he taught me was Love.
Not just how to say it but how to show it.
And although he could be stubborn at times, it always came from a loving place.
He gave my brother, sister and I the best childhood anyone could ask for and my mother a lifetime of beautiful memories.
He was the funniest Grandfather “Grampy” ever, most relatable and understanding Father and loyal devoted Husband.
I love you Dad… Rest In Peace…
Love Big Guy.
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Tuesday, July 4, 2023
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Soooo many great memories. I love you and miss you so so so much dad. You will always be in my heart.
Love,
Melissa (The best & only daughter)
& The Baddest Boys <3
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Ray Simons posted a condolence
Sunday, July 2, 2023
Rest In Peace, my Dear Friend…We called you Flippen Frank back in the day, I was called Rippin Ray although the origins of either nickname are pretty foggy to me !!!….You would have loved your service, which would have been an amazing party if only you’d been there cracking jokes & spinning some cool tunes ! I know you’re proud of Helen & the Kids, who were all so brave and Love you dearly ! I truly believe your adventures will continue with Vic, Carmine & Jeanie ,Russ and all your Family and Friends who’ve gone before . Love you, Brother! I’ll catch you on the Flip side, Ray.
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Leigh Ann Eliseo posted a condolence
Thursday, June 29, 2023
Uncle Frankie--I will miss you so much, especially your sense of humor. You always made me smile and laugh, always had jokes and funny stories to share. Your generosity was unmatched. You introduced me to movies, TV shows, and music that I might not have found on my own. You always made sure I was having fun, and if I was sad you gave me something to laugh about. I have so many wonderful memories of growing up alongside Chris, Russ, and Melissa--my extended family. I think my favorite "memory" (I was too little to actually remember it, but you always loved telling me about it) is toddling around your house wearing your giant headphones with Pink Floyd in my ears and saying "weeno neeno." I love you very much Uncle Frankie and I'm sure going to miss you. Fly high with the angels, beautiful human.
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GARY A WINANS posted a condolence
Wednesday, June 28, 2023
Frank-my old buddy, the coolest guy I've ever known. I was lucky to have run with him a few short years ago in the late 70's and early 80's while he was in Omaha.
Glad to have called him my friend. God Bless you Frank and save me a good spot.
Gary Winans
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Joan DiPietro posted a condolence
Wednesday, June 28, 2023
We are all going to miss you Frankie. Your sense of humor, your pun on words, the barbecues, the concerts, the belly laughs,
Just hanging out. We have a lifetime of memories with you! We just have to hang on to them until we see you again on the other side. May you forever rest in peace.
With Love to Helen, Christopher, Russell, Melissa and Nick
Joan and Diana
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Michael Sach lit a candle
Wednesday, June 28, 2023
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My condolences to the entire Abate family. Mr. Abate was one of a kind, a great man. I remember the night he showed up at Cassidy’s house the night Cassidy’s table got frisbied on the roof. He was always there for us. He will be greatly missed. RIP.
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C.J. Grey posted a condolence
Wednesday, June 28, 2023
Frank Abate was one of a kind…. One of the coolest people I’ve ever had the pleasure of knowing. His laugh was infectious as was his personality. He taught me so much about music films and life in general. Mr. Abate was for me and many of us a safe haven, a place to go with problems you couldn’t go to your own parents with. I basically lived at his house, I had my own toothbrush in the bathroom. I never felt unwelcomed I felt like family. Frank had an amazing way of doing that making you feel special, Making you laugh and most of all making you think, he taught me to challenge certain things to ask questions and not accept everything your fed as truth. From summer days at the pool…. To nights at the house…. To sitting around the table watching stand up or some obscure piece of amazing cinema history or listening to Music, some of my best memories include him. When I lost my parents at a young age the Abates were there for me with open arms and open doors… As I navigated the perils of young adulthood without my own parents to help guide me there were many times I stumbled and fell and made the wrong decisions, I never felt judged by Frank. He would talk to me not at me. I will forever be grateful for his impact on my life. I will be forever grateful that I got to know such an amazing smart kind and hilarious man. To Mrs Abate Chris Russ and Melissa.. I love you all and I am soo deeply sorry for this loss he had such an impact on soo many that he will live on forever through the countless peoples lives he touched. Chris my brother, I love you sooo much my friend . You have always been there for me through everything I’ve ever been through and I will be here for you through this very difficult time. Much love to the entire Abate family Rest In Peace to a legend, Frank Abate you will live on through the memories and the love that everybody who has ever met you holds for you.
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Billy Eliseo posted a condolence
Tuesday, June 27, 2023
I have no clue where to start. It’s impossible to sum up a life as amazing as Frankie’s in a few sentences. Reading through all of these comments it’s blainantly obvious that we all share the same theme. Loyalty, trust, music, movies, backyard bbqs, so much laughter, and the shock that there won’t be any new memories. I am honored to have so many of my childhood memories with my Huntington family. To have had the opportunity to share your hospitality with my children was always special but now it’s a memory I’ll cherish forever. I love you. Always have and always will, Converse Cowboy. Love, Billy the kid.
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William Eliseo posted a condolence
Tuesday, June 27, 2023
There are many ways to describe a person you have known forever. So many adjectives at any moment throughout life are used to remember Frank. All of them are equally important and personal to one another. My friend, we no doubt created some great memories as kids, teens, parents and grandparents. We are fortunate to have you and your family with us in this journey through life. Tributes are being written in you honor, all well deserved!! My words to remember you by are mine. I need to repeat them from time to time. to keep you with me. Loving, compassionate, straightforward, sometimes stubborn, but my favorite is your loyalty! You would always start a story with, do you remember? We’ll sometimes my memory goes to CRS. But I will never ever forget you my Brother!! Love Billy & Sandi
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Peter Ferzan lit a candle
Tuesday, June 27, 2023
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Ultimately, we recognize that the memories created over time are what keeps our legacy alive and for a much longer span of time, embraced within our hearts as reminders of the special moments spent together. I will always remember Frank as a humble, kind, and generous friend, devoted to his family and those he befriended. One, with whom I shared much time, raising our children and experiencing them, each as part of each other’s family. The sadness of losing him is overcome, knowing the impact he made on so many of us who cherished his presence. It makes me smile, thinking of the laughs we shared along with Helen and seeing how beautifully Chris, Russell and Melissa have become as adults – now with spouses and children of their own. May you rest in peace as we keep your spirit welcome in our own lives.
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Elizabeth Birdsong lit a candle
Tuesday, June 27, 2023
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Isabelle Murchison posted a condolence
Monday, June 26, 2023
Frank inspired me to be a better parent. He will forever be a staple when I think of my childhood. Spending the night at Melissa’s house was….not an easy thing for me to do. Melissa always wanted to watch scary movies and then sleep in total darkness. Before Frank popped in the least scary movie for us though, he would set up the cot, make sure there were enough pillows and blankets, make sure we weren’t hungry or thirsty or needed for anything. I was always so comforted by how much he cared. And then he’d always wake us up around 6am asking what kind of donuts we wanted from Dunkin’ Donuts. The first time he must have asked us the night before, I had no idea what donut I wanted, he let me know the Boston cream is the way to go and he wasn’t wrong. Throughout the hardships of navigating our teenage years, I was always comfortable being with Melissa because I always knew we were safe. No matter the situation we could always call Frank and he’d be there.
Frank will be forever in my heart. All of the Abates will ❤️.
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Bryan Kelley posted a condolence
Monday, June 26, 2023
Frank was one of the most unique, easy-going individuals that I’ve had the pleasure of knowing. He would inconvenience himself in ways to accommodate others to a level that I could never match, and I’ve yet to meet anyone who can. I can’t think of Frank and not call out he was also one of the most stubborn individuals I’ve met. While stubborn, his stubbornness was never directed toward others; he was always loving/accommodating. If he believed X, it was X unless proven otherwise (and then still often disagreed). I must also call out his sense of humor as something else. I don’t know where to start with classifying his sense of humor, but it was funny. While I haven’t seen Frank in nearly 5 years, to this day, at least once a week, I find myself repeating funny statements/jokes Frank shared with me.
I’ll never forget you Frank, you will always hold a special place in my heart. Countless miss you. Rest in peace, my friend. Love, Bryan
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Elizabeth Birdsong lit a candle
Monday, June 26, 2023
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God bless your family. We love you Frankie
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Kristine Paprocki (Nikifor) posted a condolence
Monday, June 26, 2023
I was just thinking about him a few days ago. My oldest was in the pool and blew water/snot out of her nose then basically wiped it up into her hair while getting her hair out of her face and my husband called her out..I just laughed remembering Frank always telling me that my blonde hair was green from "boogers" and not the chlorine from ya'lls pool. Hope ya'll find peace is all the great memories and lifelong impacts he had on everyone.
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Angela Schmitt posted a condolence
Monday, June 26, 2023
Frank was truly one of a kind. There are so many memories to look back on with frank and each one just as great as the next one. Back then the perfect weekend was at the Abate's home. Day in the pool, pizza for dinner, then a video on one of Frank's VHS collection. In the morning he would always get Dunkin' donuts and made sure to get everyone's favorite doughnut! This is probably where Melissa's love for doughnuts come from ❤️. His selflessness was endless. He always made sure everyone got home safe. He is the definition of "not all heros wear capes". I'm going to miss you frank, I'm going to miss the little banter, the laughs, I will miss you dearly! Love you!
~Angy Smangy
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Alex Ferzan posted a symbolic gesture
Monday, June 26, 2023
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Frank Abate was one of the people who raised me.
I don’t even know where to begin with regard to highlighting memories from the plethora I have, but I’ll do my best.
Frank was one of the most generous, open minded, interested people I’ve ever met. Anything he did, from Marlboro Miles to Disney VHS, he did obsessively, with a passion, and to the absolute highest order. He taught us how to be industrious, and how to get away with stuff we shouldn’t be doing, and he taught us how to be fair.
From single digits, I can remember Frank screaming, “God dammit, Russell” from back door as Russ attempted a double backflip off the highly illegal diving board. Or letting us watch comedy specials way too mature for our adolescent brains, reciting the punchlines aloud…”My head and my shouldermapads…”.
He showed me dinner plates that were UNBREAKABLE, and whispered conspiracy theories in my ear (later passed down to Chris, my oldest and best Brother). He bailed us out, pushed us around, and threatened the opposing team’s parents with violence, as he nervously paced the sidelines, year after year, season after season, game after game. He also was the first person in Suffolk County to have a hot wired cable box, which was, and still is, the coolest thing I’ve ever seen in my life.
From his custom van that we lived in, to his ~secret garden~ we stole from, his influence on our entire crew was ineffable. He was the most relatable parent in our world, and that gave us somewhere to go with the things our parents couldn’t stomach. He was a safe-haven for a lot of kids with a lot of energy that needed to be tamed, and without people like Frank, there’d be even less of us around than there are today.
He lit up the dark side of the moon, and the quiet side of the room and part of the reason I am who I am today is Frank Abate.
I’ll never, ever, ever forget him.
Love you, Frank, and the Abates. Very much.
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Michael Alfano posted a condolence
Monday, June 26, 2023
Fireworks and pool parties. As a kid I loved spending time in that house. As we got older I would spend more time with Mr. Abate talking about music and movies. He put me on to so many different artists, albums and films. Truly an amazing man who made me feel like a part of his family. My deepest condolences to you all. Love and Respect
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cindy bellamy posted a condolence
Monday, June 26, 2023
Melissa you and your family have my deepest sympathy. There really are no words to give comfort at a time like this. Just know that all of you will remain in my thoughts and prayers. May peace be with you and your family. Sending love and hugs
Sincerely
Cindy Bellamy
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Zachary Flor posted a condolence
Monday, June 26, 2023
Frank was a one of a kind guy. Will cherish the memories sitting at the table listening to frank tell jokes or spending time around the pool. Frank always was caring asking how I and my family were doing. I would stop by planning to just be there for a few minutest and find my self sitting for a hour. My love goes out to the abates. I spenta lot of time at the house franks was always welcoming. He will be deeply missed. Love to the Abates.
Zac Flor
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Jock Bethune uploaded photo(s)
Monday, June 26, 2023
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Chris Abate, Frank Abate, Carmine Abate and Nick Abate Boy’s Club Reunion Saturday April 30, 2022 Locust Valley New York
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Shelley Weeks posted a condolence
Monday, June 26, 2023
Frank Abate...my uncle and my Godfather. I was flower girl in his wedding to Helen. I cannot believe I will never see his smiling face in person again. Uncle Frankie was the kind of person who literally welcomed anyone into his home-to sleep, eat, swim, what was his was yours. The Abate boys just have that welcoming personality and they just want the people they love to have fun and be happy. Big hugs to my aunt, my cousins, his adorable grandkids, and his one remaining brother, Nick. May you rest in peace, Uncle Frankie. Tell my parents, Uncle Vic, and Grandma and Grandpa "hi" for all of us.
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Monday, June 26, 2023
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Arnold Ceglia Jr. posted a condolence
Monday, June 26, 2023
Dear Helen, Nick, Abate Family and Friends. Frank is one of us a Locust Valley Boy. Frank was always Kind and Friendly to everyone. A Gentleman and Friend. Frank say hello to Carmine and our Families in Heaven.
Miss and Love You.
Arnold J. Ceglia Jr. and Family
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